I am starting this blog not only to write about my life after adoption, but to also connect to others. If I find any birth family through this network, I will then feel whole.
My name is Randy, I was born in Miami, Florida on August 26, 1947 at least this is what my birth certificate reads. I was adopted by a couple from Hollywood shortly after my birth. When the time came to come for me, a nurse apparently approached my parents and told them about a baby girl that was born August 25, 1947 and would they be
interested in her as well.
They discussed it and instead of taking one baby home they took two.
I was told that a social worker came by a few times and that was it.
Now as loving as my parents were, my Adoptive mother wanted everyone to think we were twins, so that is what we grew up believing.
For some reason or another my sister needed her birth certificate for something when she was a teenager and realized then that not only was she not my biological sister, she was certainly not my twin. My mother swore her to the secrecy and I didn't find out until I was in my 30's.
I do not blame my sister for this, she had no way of controlling a dysfunctional parent.
Both of our BC are basically identical, there is no hospital or doctor listed just our adoptive parents names. I also have another BC that gives my adoptive parents as my birth parents as well as a tag from a nursery in Edgewater Hospital - Miami Florida, my birth weight and time. I have been searching for this hospital, but have not had any luck.
My birth name was BORIN, my sisters was MALICH, this and what we were told about our birth mothers both being unwed and 19 is all we have to go on.
With the help of my wife, I am registered on just about every website pertaining to adoption including black market adoptions. I have just started my search and have requested a non-id from the state of Florida. If there is something there, I am hoping it will answer a few questions.
I will be adding photos in my next post, take a close look...do I look like someone you know?
8 comments:
Randy, Your story and pictures leave me breathless and teary eyed. I'm adding you to my prayers and I hope that you will be successful in your search for your birth mother. I am forwarding your blog URL on to someone who might be able to give you some suggestions if they choose to. God bless you!
I am the granddaughter of an adopted child and have been researching my family tree for a few years now with some success. Be patient and check out every lead and the answers will come in time. My friend also recently found her adopted daughter after years of searching. Good luck in your search!
Hi Randy! I'm one of Queen Vee's worker bees. My suggestions are to register with the International Soundex registry, to find a local adoption support group, to buy a large accordian file to keep track of everything you're doing, to write the county where you were born and ask for "non-identifying information." If any lawyers were involved, you might be able to get your hands on those records with signed and notarized releases. Those are my initial suggestions. Hope they help! Reunion is a beautiful thing! Keep hoping and praying!
Good luck with this- I know you won't give up until you find what you are looking for. Joy
Have you tried Childrens Home Society...I have an adopted son and we went through that organization.
I hope you find what you are looking for. Mary, Idaho
Randy.. my prayers are with you, I hope you find your birth family and that it is everything you want it to be. My 20 month old daughter is adopted and we chose Open Adoption for this very reason, we don't ever want her to have to search for her other family. You are in our thoughts and prayers!
Hi Randy, I found your page through Dawn at The Feathered Nest. Have you thought about starting a facebook page with a link back to your blog. It would most likely give you more exposure. I hope you find the answers you're looking for. ~ Abby
I joined a Genealogy group, several in fact, to research my family tree. While there I asked for information on my husband's birth Mother's name. Two years later I received a response on one of the sites. He has a sister and his own family tree now.
Don't give up.
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